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What good is a wordless book? In its silence, it shouts.

“Pause! Reflect! Absorb!”

On every page of this concise little title, the reader is encouraged to drink deep the adventures of youth. The child’s delight as he steps off his porch, fervor as he splashes, and dismay at losing something dear to him, are all beautifully illustrated as a reminder of just how passionately the young among us experience what seem to us to be the humdrum day-to-day moments.

My favorite part, though, is when his parent acknowledges his dismay, and helps him go about setting things right. How often do we brush off the big emotions of our children, meeting their dismay at losing that leaf that looked just so, with frustration of our own?

“What’s the big deal? Grow up!”

We may not say these words aloud, but we certainly say them with our actions. When I am frustrated that my son cannot cope with the fact that he cut the construction paper too small for what he wanted to build, or that his creative process requires a certain color LEGO piece that he cannot find, may I be reminded that he is human, too, and these “little” things matter to him as strongly as my experiences matter to me. May I be reminded to see things through passionate eyes once more, and to revel in the simplicity of splashing in puddles and watching snowflakes drift.

Rating: 4 out of 5 stars

Recommended by: 17 of the Most Beautifully Illustrated Picture Books in 2015

Recommended if: you’re looking for picture books demonstrating gentle parenting, you enjoy losing yourself in illustrations, or you just need to be reminded of the wonder of youth.

Linked at: Saturday Review of Books


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I managed to read sixty-three books this year, for a cumulative 15,920 pages. It’s a bit shy of the 19,652 pages that I managed to read in 2012, but when I take into consideration that my younger son was born exactly a year ago (happy birthday, Squishy!), I think that’s a pretty decent amount, don’t you? My goal for the year was sixty, so I surpassed that… in fact, I just realized that I read sixty-three books in 2012, too.

Huh. That’s a little obscure.

Anyway. I’m thinking I’ll set the bar a little higher this next year… say, seventy-five books? Or 20,000 pages. Maybe I’ll set the bar with pages, instead, since I’ve still got that unread, unabridged copy of Les Miserables sitting on my shelf. Eh-heh. I digress. On to the list!

Grace Based
Parenting by Tim Kimmel
My copy bears a ridiculous amount of underlining and highlighting. (Yes, I’m one of those people.) I loved this book. Loved it. In fact, I’m getting ready to re-read it (as well as Give Them Grace, another book on the topic that I purchased a year ago). Kimmel discusses the most common “road maps” that we follow as parents: fear-based parenting, evangelical behavior-modification parenting, image-control parenting, high-control parenting, herd-mentality parenting, duct-tape parenting, and life support of 911 parenting. He breaks each of these down and then moves on to outline grace-based parenting.

Grace certainly has its share of enemies. There are those enemies who want to camp on the truth of the Bible and say that life is black and white with little nuance. Parents like Tom assume that to show grace is to go soft on moral standards. They get a lot of fuel for this skewed opinion of grace from the parents who use grace  as their excuse for not enforcing rules. A family without clearly defined rules and standards could never be a grace-based family. It’s too busy being a nightmare to live in.
-p. 34

Grace often contradicts parenting plans that want to distill roles down into checklists. Grace-based parenting is a heart-activated plan that takes its cues from a daily walk with Jesus Christ. Because of this, grace and strict parenting textbooks will never find themselves in agreement.
– p. 101

I’m sitting here thumbing through the book, trying to figure out which highlighted and underlined sections to share with you, but if I listed all of the parts that inspired me or struck my heart, well… I’d have half of the book transcribed, and that wouldn’t do the author any favors. 😉

Half Broke Horses by Jeannette Walls
This one was fascinating. It’s a partially-fictional memoir, if such a thing were to exist. The author has taken the story and memories of her eccentric grandmother and brought them to life on the page. Floods, the Great Depression, ranching, teaching in a one-room schoolhouse, living in the city … her life encompasses many circles and many adventures, and the book is filled with little tidbits about historical life. For example, did you know that they specifically didn’t wash their Levis, because over time they would develop a coating of dirt, oil, and other, ah, miscellaneous things, that served to protect the wearer? Basically, they were Carhartts before there were Carhartts. 😉 If you like history and lives lived with grit, I recommend Half Broke Horses.

The Moonlit Mind: A Tale of
Suspense by Dean Koontz
I read this one on my mother’s Kindle shortly after my younger son was born, and I’m going to have to chalk it up as one of Koontz’ best works, right up there with The Taking and Odd Thomas. I was disappointed by Odd Apocalypse, the most recent installment in the Odd Thomas series, but this little tale served to restore my faith in Koontz and his writing ability.

Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues by Lindsey Biel, MA, OTR/L, and Nancy Peske
I mentioned this book in my introduction to sensory processing post, so I won’t discuss it too deeply here, but suffice to say that this is the book that finally confirmed those niggling suspicions in the back of my mind for me, and pushed me to have him evaluated for a speech delay and sensory processing concerns.

Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Natasha Campbell-McBride, MD, MMedSci/neurology, MMedSci/nutrition
After hearing anecdote after anecdote from acquaintances online about how the GAPS diet helped their (or their child’s) IBS / food allergies / chronic fatigue / eczema / autism / allergies / sensory issues / et cetera, I finally got around to ordering the book this autumn. Having been told upon a diagnosis of non-celiac gluten intolerance that it’s genetic and will never go away, I was intrigued that I might one day be able to consume gluten without giving myself migraines and gastrointestinal upset. I’m looking forward to incorporating it into our lives once we are settled into our new home, and seeing if it helps heal our food intolerances and lessen my son’s sensory processing issues. I will keep you posted, but I am optimistic.

Independence Days: A Guide to Sustainable Food Storage and Preservation by Sharon Astyk
I read Sharon’s blog, so I was excited to get my hands on a copy of this book from my local library system. She touches on how to start storing food on a very negligible budget, what the different ways of storing food are (think beyond the freezer and canner!), capturing water, medicines in emergencies, and more.

The only thing I didn’t like about the book was that in her section on “special diets,” the only consideration she really gives is that of pregnant women and infants, which is a little short-sighted in my opinion. But then, I have food intolerances, and my body has already proven to me that if I were to try to subsist on a diet of stored wheat, I’d be wasting away in no time. So there’s that. But, a lot of what she has to say could be utilized for gluten-free grains and other foods that are naturally free of gluten as well, so I suppose it’s not as big of a deal as it could be. Perspective comes in handy.

I especially love the portion where she discusses the “theory of anyway” … the idea that even if particular issues (such as peak oil or climate change) are resolved (or if you’re like me and don’t believe in man-made climate change, or are still slightly skeptical on the peak oil front), there are still plenty of good reasons to think about food storage and living sustainably, because there are other problems. And if we fixed those problems, it’s still a good idea because of <insert the next step here> and so on and so forth, all boiling down to this:

… if you told me that … I didn’t have to worry anymore, would I then stop gardening?

No. Nurturing and preserving my small slice of the planet would still be the right thing to do. Doing things with no more waste than is absolutely necessary woudl still be the right thing to do. The creation of a fertile, sustainable, lasting place of beauty would still be my right work in the world. I would still be a Jew, obligated by my faith, to “the repair of the world.” I would still be obligated to live in a way that prevented wildlife from being run to extinction and poisons from contaminating the earth. I would still be obligated to reduce my needs so they represent a fair share of what the earth has to offer. I would still be obligated to treat poor people as my brothers and sisters, and you do not live comfortably when your siblings suffer. I am obligated to live rightly, in part because of what living rightly gives me – integrity, honor, joy, a better relationship with my deity of choice, peace.
– p. 16

The Small-Scale Poultry Flock: An All-Natural Approach to Raising Chickens and Other Fowl for Home and Market Growers
by Harvey Ussery
The man basically takes the pasture-based approach of Joel Salatin’s Pastured Poultry Profit$and scales it down for the backyard. That sounds simple, but it’s truly a beautiful piece of homestead literature. He discusses rotational “grazing,” getting creative with mixing and/or growing your own feed, breeding your poultry, basic care, butchering, deep-litter management, starting your flock, and so much more. This book would be worth the price for the appendices alone, where he offers photographs and step-by-step directions for building things like dust boxes, trap nests, and mobile frames, as well as nutritional information and enormous lists of resources. If you only get one book on poultry, make it this one. (I plan to.)

How about you? What were your top books of 2013? Do you have any books you’d like to recommend to me for 2014? Let me know in the comments!

Also linked up to Semicolon Blog’s Saturday Review of Books.

Want to know what I’m looking forward to reading in the New Year? Well, I can help you out with that.

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Yeah. This video is a summary of truth.


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